• THE WHO

    The WHO is YOU and YOUR MARRIAGE!

    First of all, congratulations for just being here! Seeking marriage counseling and looking for a marriage counselor is a big deal. Research says that couples usually wait at least 6 years AFTER noticing significant problems before seeking help. So you are already well on your way to improving your relationship.

     

    If you're here, we are going to make a few assumptions:

     

    1. You are looking for answers...you want someone who knows what they are doing and who will tell you the truth.

    2. You are willing to "do what it takes" to save your relationship and make it better.

    3. You've had any of the following thoughts:

    • Is it normal for relationships to be so difficult? 
    • I know things aren't terrible...but I feel there is still something missing.
    • I refuse to be a statistic...
    • I used to say, "divorce isn't an option" but lately I've been on the fence.
    • I have tried things before...what's going to be different this time?
    • I needed things changed YESTERDAY...
    • I'm worried that I've "fallen" out of love...
    • I don't know if I will ever be able to trust again...my heart is broken.
    • I refuse to quit, give up, throw in the towel until we have tried everything...
    • I don't need to be told what's wrong...I need someone to help me do more of what's right...
    • The kids are a reason to stay married, but that's not enough...
    • Whoever said "love is a battlefield" was spot on. Things have been getting out of hand lately.
    • I'm beginning to think we are more like roommates than lovers...

    4. You want to have a great marriage not just survive it.

    5. You like us. You might not know us, but you probably already know if you like us or not. You should probably like us especially since we are going to work on your most important relationship together.

     

  • THE WHY

    "Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, 

    anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending." - Carl Bard

    Here's the WHY behind the WHAT.

    We believe in you. We believe that you and your relationship CAN change. We believe in the value and sanctity of your marriage. We are convinced that marriage is more than merely a "contract" or "piece of paper." We also believe that healthy marriages are the not only the foundation for healthy lives but healthy families.

     

    We are definitively PRO-MARRIAGE, meaning we want you to win at marriage so you don't have to worry we won't be suggesting divorce no matter how bad things look right now. Why? Well, for starters, that simply isn't our place. Ultimately what happens with your marriage will be your decision and the result of the choices you make. However, in our opinion just because things may seem hopeless at this moment and you may be deeply unsatisfied with your relationship, it doesn't mean that it should end. In fact we have research and experience with couples that says otherwise! (Check out this study.)

     

    We are committed to not take either parties' side but rather stand on the side of your marriage and fight for it.

     

    Now just to be clear, by 'saving a marriage' we do not mean simply keeping two people physically together where one or both spouses are miserable. We call ourselves "Thrive At Home" because we believe that spouses can discover renewed purpose, connection, value and joy together, allowing them to turn the page and begin to write a different ending to their marriage story, filled with new and exciting chapters. We know that as counselors we can't "fix" the problem for you. We also know that not every relationship will make it. But for those who are willing to try...we can set the stage for a MARRIAGE COMEBACK!

     

    If you weren't happy with yesterday,

    try something different today. Don't stay stuck. Do better. 

  • PROFILES

    Here's the long story short.

    We've been doing this awhile.

    We are confident we can help

    And WE LOVE what we do!

     

    BUT it's not about us.

    We want to see YOU and YOUR MARRIAGE succeed!

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    Sam's Bio

    Strengths: WOO, Activator, Communication,

    Maximizer and Positivity

    Sam is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of California (LMFT37887). Sam graduated from Western Seminary in Los Gatos, CA with his degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. He has been working in private practice doing counseling for 16 years. Sam spent 2 1/2 years training and supervising therapists for the Fleet and Family Support Counseling Center for the Navy at Naval Base San Diego and then served as a Family Advocacy Clinician for the Marine Corps at MCAS Miramar for 2 1/2 years. He became the "go to" referral for marriage counseling by his peers. Sam has completed Level 1, 2 &3 of the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy.

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    Kerri's Bio

    Strengths: Deliberator, Analytical, Context, 

    Adaptability and Harmony

    Kerri is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of California (LMFT41949). Kerri graduated from Bethel Seminary in San Diego, CA with her degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. Kerri started in private practice in 2005 and then left to be a full-time mom in 2010. During her time away she volunteered by leading therapy groups for GenerateHope an awesome organization that rehabilitates victims of human trafficking and sexual slavery. Kerri specializes in working with couples, helping them to rebuild trust and rediscover the connection in their marriage. Kerri has completed Level 1, 2, & 3 in the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy.

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